In quantum physics there is a theory known as the Heisenberg Uncertainty Principal. Werner Heisenberg lived from 1901-1976, and he’s become famous for making a whole lot of theoretical physicists very angry. He was the guy who pointed out (in the theory that’s been named after him) that in scientific research, you cannot observe something without affecting it, which basically means that you change everything you encounter. One lazy saturday afternoon he was firing subatomic particles through a filter into a film on the other side. When he looked at the film he saw one thing, when he tried to watch the particles on their way to the film he got a different result, meaning that by watching them, he changed them… they were so small even the equipment used to look at them affected their behavior! EVERYthing in life is connected.
There is an uncertainty principal in relationships as well… you can’t avoid affecting the people around you. Your life is as it is because of the people you have encountered, just as nobody around you is the same because of you. As Christians this means that we have a responsibility to the people in our lives. We are part of each other.
When a father or a husband packs up and runs off with some floozy, he leaves a hole in his family, a hole that only he could fill. When we have a fight with a friend and stop spending time together we get pretty angry, not because of what was said but because our friend is gone. People depend on you just like you depend on them. Your life is not your own to do with as you please… just by breathing we are in each others debt… to be there, because nothing would ever be the same without you.
Some relationships become toxic, people in your life may affect you in negative, unhealthy ways.. and sometimes they’re simply unwilling to do anything about it… because they don’t understand the principal that their life is not their own; their selfishness is the toxin and it poisons them as badly as the people around them… some guy who stops for a drink after work and comes home and hits his wife, a daughter who sneaks out to party with her friends when her parents aren’t watching, a brother or sister mixed up with drugs or addiction that breaks a family’s heart… runaways, divorces, breakups, widows, orphans, sickness, friends, relatives, neighbors…
The people around you are all you’ve got, and you’re all they’ve got. You owe them and they owe you. Neither of you would be “you” without the other.
Do the best you can for each other.