I’m just going to say it. If you make a New Year Resolution you are going to fail. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not trying to discourage you, I’m just saying that if there is something about yourself that you know you need to change, yet you need an excuse (like new years) to say it, or implement it, it really isn’t important enough to you for you to actually follow through.
In his masterpiece The Art of Non-Conformity, Chris Guillebeau points out that people hate change, and we will resist it as long and violently as possible until the option of remaining the same becomes more painful than actually changing. Maybe it’s finding a new job, losing weight, getting yourself “organized”, fixing a drippy faucet… no matter what it is, as a general rule we will ignore the problem and resist making an effort until we have no other alternative.
There is a very good reason the Bible says that God makes each day new, not each year… because every waking moment is a chance for you to change, you don’t have to wait until December 31st to finally admit you have a problem, and you don’t have to wait until January 1st to get off your lazy butt and DO something bout it. If you wait for the calendar to give you permission, then the problem isn’t hurting you, and you’re just proving that you’re still able to put it off a little longer. …besides, when has a calendar actually given anyone more time?
If it matters to you, you won’t wait… you can’t wait. If it matters to you, you won’t fail because you can’t fail… the alternative is too painful for you to consider. A resolution is nothing more than an intention, and we all know where good intentions lead. Real life change happens unexpectedly and permanently and seldom in the way would have chosen.
This year, don’t embarrass yourself by declaring all your resolutions, all you’re doing is making it that much more obvious when you quit trying… Instead, focus on your day to day life and actually change yourself for the better! Stop talking and do it.
It’s always better to secretly succeed than to publicly fail!