For the last three days I’ve tried to go to the gym and turned back each time, because when I get there I can’t find a single parking space! This happens every January! All the New Year’s Resolution people flood the gym with their promises to finally “stick with it”. By Valentine’s Day they will all give up and the gym will go back to normal.
I’m sure there are some who do this every year and never follow through, it’s just a new years tradition, but I’m equally sure that most of them do not intend to give up! They want to stick with it, they want to get in shape, lose some weight or set the discipline into their life. They really mean to finally do it, they just get overcome by other life concerns.
Nobody likes to admit failure, or that they’ve given up, and I’m pretty sure the gym depends on this. A lot of people never actually go to the gym but keep paying their dues anyway, because if they cancel their membership they admit defeat.
My challenge to all of us this year is to become more graceful failures. Let’s stop lying to ourselves about all the awesome things we plan to do this year and just do our best. If you want to join the gym and get in shape, do it, but realize that at some point you will be tired, or not feeling well or have something else you would rather do and you won’t go…
A lot of people set themselves up for disappointment this time of year with all these lofty, and honestly unrealistic. goals they set for themselves. You will not lose 50 lbs by Valentine’s Day, so don’t resolve to do so. Whatever your ‘resolution’ may be, be real with yourself about it. Don’t let your humanity get in the way and break your spirit over the whole thing! We are humans, we mess up, we get distracted by anything thats sparkly!
I think the best resolution for any of us to make would be to simply keep trying! If the first attempt is a dismal failure, no big deal, just do it again. Your friends and family might tease you for quitting after making a big speech about how “this was the year..”, but nobody will mock you for being determined, for trying again and again even though you don’t even want to anymore!
Lose some weight, quit smoking, sober up, stop yelling at your spouse, tithe, save money for a trip, write a book, put your family back together, whatever “it” is for you, keep at it, even when you fail… if it’s worth starting, it’s worth seeing through to the end.